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BTI Party Guide

Hosting a party should be fun, but safety is key. Allowing underage drinking or substance use can lead to fines, lawsuits, and criminal charges under Social Host Ordinances. Whether at your home or a rented venue, setting clear boundaries and maintaining a substance-free environment ensures a safe and enjoyable event for all.

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How to Host A Party

The overarching advice when hosting a party is to plan ahead. Planning a party together with your child offers an opportunity to have an open, healthy conversation about your rules, values and expectations, as well as the responsibilities and liabilities assumed when hosting a party.

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Set Ground Rules

Discuss your ground rules that need to be followed for the party to happen. Make clear that no alcohol, marijuana, smoking, vaping or other drugs will be allowed. Make sure your child is aware of the legal repercussions you face as an adult and host.

Other ground rules include a definite start and end time, designated areas of the home which will be open or off limits and the number of invited guests. Consider sending an email to parents informing them of your ground rules and giving out your contact info. 

​Be Visible

Check in and be aware of what’s going on. 

And, of course, never let anyone under the influence drive.

Attendance At Other House Parties

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So, your kid wants to go to a party at a friend’s house, but you’re not sure how to approach it. A good starting point is to check in about the details—like where the party is and who’s hosting. Asking these questions keeps you connected and helps ensure your child’s safety.

Check In With The Host Parent

It’s a good idea to reach out to the parents hosting the party. It might feel a little awkward, but it’s an easy way to make sure everyone is on the same page and to give yourself peace of mind. Here are some questions to consider asking:

  • Will you be at the party and actively supervising?

  • What time does the party start and end?

  • Who will be helping with supervision?

  • Is it okay if I share my phone number in case you need to reach me?

Having this conversation with the host parents helps build a sense of teamwork and makes sure everyone is working together to keep things safe and fun for all the kids.

For tips on how to have these conversations, head to our Scripts Page